So, wasn't last week an exciting and um... SEXY week?
So there is nothing much you can do this week except to wait. That 14-day wait can be tiresome, really. Especially if you have fertility issues like me. The knowledge of an incompetent cervix may even be so stressful that it adds to the 'bad hormones' that may prevent conception. Sigh... not easy being a woman, eh? You look for every little symptom, every little sign that may point to early signs of pregnancy. But we also know that signs of pregnancy mimic signs of PMS!!! ARGH!!!! Why doesn't it get easier?
Ok, so I found this website many years ago (remember the sitting on the toilet crying when period started? Read Week 2 here ). It was truly helpful (but believe me, only psychologically) in getting that dreaded 2 weeks to pass before you can actually go to the pharmacy and empty the shelves of pregnancy test kits! http://www.twoweekwait.com/ You will find yourself doing a lot of silly things during these 2 weeks, but don't worry, this website will assure you that there is no need to visit the psychiatric department just yet :)
Oh ya, one thing I learnt is,implantation bleeding is very real. All my pregnancies... I thought dear Aunty Flo has visited again... but turned out to be just implantation bleeding. So watch out for that ladies, and don't panic nor fret when you see bleeding. It may just be that. Especially for those of us with an incompetent cervix... hey we don't dilate this early. No mucous plug whatsoever to worry about. If the little one has already been created, just give it a little time to travel to your uterus (it takes between 6 to 16 days I believe) and implant itself into the uterine wall. Continue to eat healthy, remember the folic acid, and wait for a while more....
You may want to continue your lovemaking sessions though... because you know what? With an incompetent cervix, you may be prescribed complete pelvic rest as well. Which means no sexual intercourse, no sexual stimulation whatsoever and definitely no orgasm! That would be a good 36 weeks of celibacy (ok, maybe you can still do it before Week 14 when your cerclage is due to be placed, and maybe after Week 37 after the cerclage is removed, but still..... 20 plus week of celibacy is no fun!) Also, go enjoy shopping, kickboxing, carrying your toddler if you have one, and all those physical activities you may not be able to do anymore very soon. If you haven't heard yet, bedrest is part and parcel of the life of a pregnant woman with an incompetent cervix.
Emotionally... of course if this is not your first pregnancy, you will have mixed feelings. Anticipation, fear, excitement, apprehension... if you have supportive friends and family of course things do get a LITTLE bit easier. But if you have been listening to endless "One is enough" or "Why do you want to go through this again?" then well... be strong. You are not asking them to go through the pain with you. Neither are you asking them for any favours when you are bedresting. They could be worried about your psychological as well as physical well being... but if only they knew how much you want to have this baby.. they will soon understand. As for those who are simply irritating beings planted into this Planet, just ignore them. In fact, when you do get pregnant, make sure they are the last to know! You don't need to share this good news with them, much less get any negative energy from these negative people!!! Just stay close to hubby, he is the only one who is important in this journey other than yourself. And if you do have another little one (or two) at home running around, give him or her plenty of attention.. Perhaps a good time to go for a short holiday in Disneyland or Legoland, reassure him or her that mommy will always love him or her (or them) just the same. LOVE MULTIPLIES, NEVER DIVIDED.
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