If you had your cerclage 2 weeks ago, you should have stopped bleeding by now. If you still see fresh blood, you probably need to press the panic button and rush yourself to the ER. You may have more discharge, and they may appear as clear fluid. And the constant worry is always : Is my waterbag leaking? Before you press the panic button for this one, do consider the fact that most of those with a fresh cerclage tend to discharge more, ranging from brownish spottin Are you continuing to eat healthily? Or you just grab whatever available closest to you as you are on bedrest, probably home alone and you can't cook. Some on you on modified bedrest may be allowed to cook, carry out some household chores, shower, perhaps go to work if it is an office job.
Some of you may have been advised to continue being on bedrest. I have heard some practices where the doctor actually keep you hospitalised until your baby reaches its viability. There are just so many different degrees of bedrest, and it all very much depend on several factors (Read Week 15 here).
I was just musing over the fact that we, moms with an incompetent cervix, or for that matter, most pregnant moms (more so those of us with this particular condition) are probably the only people on earth who would obsess about our toilet paper wipes so much that we stare, examine, smell, touch (or GOD FORBID, TASTE???? Anyone?) them after each toilet visit. Some of us are understandably stressed each time we had to go to the toilet, and it doesn't help that we are advised to drink lots of water to prevent contractions and infection, plus the fact that being pregnant in itself makes us go to the toilet more often! It is stressful because we know every trip to the toilet causes pressure to the cervix, and for those who have been advised to "Strict bedrest, get up ONLY for toilet trips".... I mean, seriously? We are not talking about 3 times a day trip, we are talking about hourly trips!
The stitch is still new and raw, it is perhaps the best time to rest. Take it REAL easy. If situation permits, just stay off your feet, pee and poo in the bedpan. It's better to be paranoid than to be sorry, because at this stage your baby is not viable and if you rupture your waterbag, there is pretty much nothing that can be done. Take it from me, I have had my regrets of trying to cheat on my bedrest only to find myself funnelling to the stitch at this early stage. It's just not worth it, as even if the stitch DOES hold your pregnancy to full term, why do you want to put yourself through unncessary worry and stress? Your hubby is probably dead tired from work everyday and he has to pick up the kids, the laundry, get dinner, clean up after dinner, bathe the kids, feed the kids, so the very least you could do now is to be cheerful when he gets back instead of burdening him with further lamentations of yours about how shitty your day had been.
It's never easy, and it's part of the 'curse' of the incompetent cervix, but the blessing is, you will see how patient your husband is, and how stoic he is having to put up with you emotionally and putting up with the kids physically, and it may strengthen your marriage. Besides, this is also the time when you know who your real friends are... not just those who post "How are you" on your facebook wall, but those who actually comes to visit you with bags of goodies and proceed to do your laundry for you. There aren't many, believe me. And when you have gone through this 3 times, your 'true friend filter' will filter out the last of it. And that's when you appreciate your handful of wonderful friends.
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